Break away through meditation
Deena Kara Shaffer
Taking a trip can leave us refreshed, but it’s not always possible to fly off on a getaway. Careers and finances, family and pets, and all sorts of obligations or barriers can make travel difficult to fit into our lives.
Fortunately, vacations aren't the only way to achieve the broadened perspective and recharged energy of a nourishing excursion. Incorporating a mindful meditation practice can provide a no-cost, daily way to “escape.” I admit, I’ve had an off-and-on relationship with meditation. I’ve experienced its grounding, peace, and presentness, yet I’ve also found meditation difficult to prioritize and stick with. But each time I return to a consistent practice, I’m struck by its retreatlike stillness and calm. For insight and inspiration, I interviewed three Toronto meditators:
I also learned from the writings and recordings of Jon Kabat-Zinn, professor of medicine and originator of the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction program taught worldwide to help ease pain, anxiety, and stress.
There are many styles of meditation, including those that use mantras or visualization, each with its own history, techniques, and mentors. Several characteristics are shared across meditation types.
The most common elements of meditation include a space with minimal distractions, a specific comfortable position, a particular focus of attention, and an open attitude. Mindfulness is at the heart of all types of meditation practices.
Kabat-Zinn describes mindful meditation as moment by moment, or breath by breath awareness. Meditation invites self-compassion and what Eckler calls “friendliness” toward ourselves. Eckler depicts meditation as “the act of relating to life directly, as it is,” without overthinking, theorizing, or judging.
Meditation, explains Meyer, can be practised in myriad ways, including “traditional breathing practices, mindful walking, chanting, and even through daily tasks like cleaning and cooking.” Most essential is to be “fully absorbed in what is happening in this very moment.”
Quite simply, Miller says, “meditation relieves suffering. It can bring us to a place where we experience happiness and joy,” and does so by inviting us back to this breath—right here and now.
Mindful meditation can help us let go of past and future, reactions and planning, fretting and ruminating. Meyer describes how, when fully present, we’re able to “enjoy the pleasurable events in our lives more intensely, and able to weather the painful challenges that arise for all of us. In doing so, we become better parents, partners, workers, and friends.”
Eckler, Meyer, and Miller each suggest beginning with a teacher or group. While apps and online resources can be helpful, all three highlight the benefits of in-person learning, especially at the start of cultivating a practice.
Eckler notes that someone new to meditating “is going to want to speak to a real person, someone they feel some trust in who can help them navigate the rocky terrain called life.”
Meyer advises clients to start small but consistently, even a few minutes a day, and then gradually extend the time.
And Miller suggests it’s ideal to “practise on a daily basis for at least six to eight weeks to start to experience the benefits.”
Miller notes that “meditation reduces stress, the cause of many illnesses” and Meyer points to studies about the positive effects of mindfulness on “a range of medical concerns, including chronic pain, headaches, irritable bowel syndrome, insomnia, anxiety, depression, respiratory conditions, and even skin conditions.”
Recent research also indicates meditation may reduce high blood pressure, help with distress accompanying cancer diagnoses and treatments, and alleviate menopausal discomforts.
Mindfulness is appropriate for all ages, from children to adults. “Like any great trip,” Meyer says, “meditation can transform your entire experience of life.”